#lindychat

Chat Log for April 4, 2012: “Swing dance etiquette: Love it or hate it?”

What do people love and hate about social dance etiquette? Read the prettier, chronological chat log on Storify. Otherwise, read it here from the bottom up.

Cheers,
@RebeccaBrightly

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chanelschwartz #Lindychat fail! How did I not even know this was going on?! -9:55 AM Apr 5th, 2012

ClaudiaPetrilli @fennarama @MissWeasl D’oh! I missed the chat and there was talk about us Canucks too! #lindychat -9:47 AM Apr 5th, 2012

MadridSwingCats @RebeccaBrightly #lindychat is such a great idea! We won’t miss the next one! -8:52 AM Apr 5th, 2012

LindyHopWiki @RebeccaBrightly I missed #lindychat last night. Fortunately I missed it because I was busy dancing! -1:02 AM Apr 5th, 2012

shecontemplates @RebeccaBrightly Thanks Rebecca! Looking forward to the next one–perfect way to end a night of dancing here in Scotland. #lindychat -4:07 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @BLFerrebee See you next time! #lindychat -4:04 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @MissWeasl Happy to have you! #lindychat -4:03 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama That #lindychat was really fun. I enjoyed all the comments! -4:03 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @fennarama Glad you came by!! #lindychat -4:03 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl @RebeccaBrightly thank you for organising my first lindychat! #lindychat -4:02 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @RebeccaBrightly This was my first #lindychat . It was fun. Thanks! -4:02 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee @RebeccaBrightly No, thank YOU, Rebecca! #lindychat -4:01 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @BLFerrebee Word. I def told him that he was right, I am a very loud American! I loved his honesty. #lindychat -4:00 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Thanks everyone for the awesome chat! #lindychat -4:00 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Next #lindychat time/date TBA! The posse will be reviewing scheduling this week. If you have any sched. suggestions, DM me. #lindychat -4:00 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Before you buzz off, please suggest a topic for a future #lindychat! Tweet now or leave a comment here: http://t.co/Vpw10lYA #lindychat -4:00 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Hey all, #lindychat is almost over! Of course you can still tweet without me. #lindychat -3:59 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee @fennarama Ha! Respectfully, I don’t think anyone would deny that you are both loud and American. But point taken. #lindychat -3:59 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @MissWeasl …But he found the dance to be more pleasant than expected. I applaud his bravery. #lindychat -3:57 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee Q4.1: I’d like a bit more chatting. Perhaps allowing a few seconds between songs for hellos and goodbyes? #lindychat -3:57 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @MissWeasl Also, I once had a Swede tell me he wasn’t going to dance with me, because I was a “loud American”… #lindychat -3:57 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @MissWeasl Oh, I have had GOOD times with Canadians! And they have often thought me very forward… #lindychat -3:56 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q4.1: What piece of dance etiquette do you wish people would respect more? (Or, what etiquette would you like to invent?) #lindychat -3:55 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama Otherwise, barring injury or mood or whatever, I will dance with whomever whenever I’m asked. #lindychat -3:55 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl @fennarama me too, but it takes leads off guard at times. Canadians are very polite up here. #lindychat -3:54 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama I will refuse if a person has caused me pain in the past, and I will tell that person so… #lindychat -3:54 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama If I’m going to refuse a dance, I give a definite and truthful reason… #lindychat -3:54 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @MissWeasl I ask EVERYONE to dance! In fact, I can count on my fingers the number of times I’m asked to dance at any event. #lindychat -3:53 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @BLFerrebee I often find that the gender assumptions in the swing community are FAR LESS than everywhere else. #lindychat -3:52 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee @RebeccaBrightly Pretty much. No assumptions of gender=dance role, no assumptions of who asks, etc. #lindychat -3:52 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama @BLFerrebee A friend of mine recently had a very negative gender assumption experience at a salsa dance. #lindychat -3:52 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama Q4. This idea of “neo-swing”. I hate that we put our music in a very tiny box. #lindychat -3:51 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl Q4: I’d like to get rid of the expectation of guys asking girls to dance. It can be such a drag. #lindychat -3:50 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @BLFerrebee No assumptions at all? #lindychat -3:50 PM Apr 4th, 2012

Kabukikon Q4: Insteed i would add some more rules regarding just dancing with the people you know and not trying new people #lindychat -3:49 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl Here here RT @Kujakuseki: @RebeccaBrightly or just dance with someone. 3-4 minutes of a bad dance won’t ruin your night. #lindychat -3:49 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee Q4: This will come as no surprise to those who know me, but I wish we didn’t make assumptions at dances based on gender. #lindychat -3:49 PM Apr 4th, 2012

fennarama Q1. I think it should be ok to ask for it, but I don’t want unsolicited advice, ESPECIALLY from friends. #lindychat -3:47 PM Apr 4th, 2012

Kujakuseki @RebeccaBrightly or just dance with someone. 3-4 minutes of a bad dance won’t ruin your night. #lindychat -3:47 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee @rikomatic Very Episode 1 of West Wing. “Who is POTUS?” #lindychat -3:47 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly RT @rikomatic: Q3: To refuse a dance, I typically feign an injury or pretend to get an urgent call from the White House. #lindychat -3:46 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q4: If you could get rid of one piece of social dance etiquette/dance norms, what would it be? #lindychat -3:46 PM Apr 4th, 2012

rikomatic Q3: To refuse a dance, I typically feign an injury or pretend to get an urgent call from the White House. #lindychat -3:46 PM Apr 4th, 2012

Kabukikon Q3.1:I’ve just danced way too many songs can you give me a few to recover. #lindychat -3:45 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl Q3 sometimes if Im intimidated I want to say no – but I usually just swallow my nerves and do it anyway #lindychat -3:44 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl Q3 my only reason for saying no would be that I need some water – in which case I say lets do the next dance. #lindychat -3:43 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee Q3.1: Asking for a raincheck dance later softens the blow for me. #lindychat -3:43 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @Kabukikon That’s a good observation, I agree. #lindychat -3:42 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q3.1: What’s the least painful way to get rejected for a dance? “No thanks”? A realistic sounding excuse? #lindychat -3:41 PM Apr 4th, 2012

Kabukikon Q3: yeap there are but they are more of ways of saying it that actual reasons #lindychat -3:40 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl Personally I like being given tips, there’s so much for me to improve on and I love learning #lindychat -3:37 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @MissWeasl Hello! #lindychat -3:36 PM Apr 4th, 2012

shecontemplates @RebeccaBrightly #lindychat I love it! I do really like dressing up when I dance–otherwise I’m usually in jeans or casual skirt. -3:35 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q3: Saying “no” to a dance. Usually people appreciate it if you have a good reason. Are there BAD reasons to say no? #lindychat -3:35 PM Apr 4th, 2012

wian86 @RebeccaBrightly #lindychat definitely good to know a person first, otherwise it could be really awkward. -3:33 PM Apr 4th, 2012

MissWeasl Just joining everyone – sorry for the late arrival #lindychat -3:33 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee @RebeccaBrightly The timing was a happy coincidence! #lindychat -3:31 PM Apr 4th, 2012

chrisbe_ Q1.1 It really depends with whom I dance. When I know her quite well I would ask for permission to give a tip #lindychat -3:31 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Ha, we talk of fashion and @BLFerrebee appears!! Welcome. #lindychat -3:30 PM Apr 4th, 2012

Kabukikon Q1.1: it is extremely difficult to say something in that situation, i guess there should be a previous friendly relationship #lindychat -3:30 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly RT @Kabukikon it’s extremely difficult to say something in that situation, guess there should be a previous friendly relationship #lindychat -3:29 PM Apr 4th, 2012

BLFerrebee @RebeccaBrightly As I said last time, I like dressing specially for special occasions! (Sorry for being late to the party!) #lindychat -3:28 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q2: The expectation that you should dress up for a live band – love it or hate it? And why? #lindychat -3:27 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @chrisbe_ Asked for, or may other reasons (like hurting your partner). #lindychat -3:25 PM Apr 4th, 2012

Kabukikon #lindychat hate it, and also to see others doing it or being done to me. The social dance floor is to socialize not to showoff -3:24 PM Apr 4th, 2012

chrisbe_ @RebeccaBrightly by saying necessary you mean, you get asked for? #lindychat -3:23 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q1.1: Assuming it’s necessary, how do you give feedback so it doesn’t sound like “teaching” or “criticizing”? #lindychat -3:22 PM Apr 4th, 2012

chrisbe_ @RebeccaBrightly then it’s okay, of course! #lindychat -3:22 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly .@chrisbe_ What about dancers asking teachers (and others) for dance advice? #lindychat -3:21 PM Apr 4th, 2012

chrisbe_ Hello everybody, by the way #lindychat -3:19 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly RT @wian86 Depends on situation, adding a fun move to a repertoire is always good, but it can ruin the fun. #lindychat -3:19 PM Apr 4th, 2012

chrisbe_ students should have possibility to dance relaxed and with positive feelings with teachers #lindychat -3:18 PM Apr 4th, 2012

chrisbe_ Social dance floor is definitely the wrong place for teaching. Especially when you’re a teacher and dance with students #lindychat -3:17 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @wian86 Hey Ian! Don’t forget to use the hashtag #lindychat with every tweet so we can see it. -3:17 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @rikomatic Agreed. I usually don’t like teaching (or being taught) at a social dance. Classroom & social dances are SO different. #lindychat -3:15 PM Apr 4th, 2012

rikomatic @RebeccaBrightly There’s almost never an excuse for teaching on the social dance floor. Maybe personal safety? #lindychat -3:14 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly @rikomatic Holla. #lindychat -3:12 PM Apr 4th, 2012

rikomatic I’m here in the #LindyChat on social dance floor etiquette. -3:11 PM Apr 4th, 2012

yehoodi RT @RebeccaBrightly: Q1: Teaching on the social dance floor – love it or hate it? And why? #lindychat -3:11 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Q1: Teaching on the social dance floor – love it or hate it? And why? #lindychat -3:09 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Today’s chat topic is “Swing dance etiquette: Love it or hate it?” Who else is chatting today …besides me and the crickets? #lindychat -3:06 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Also, I want to give a shout out to @kujakuseki and @rikomatic, my #lindychat posse who haven’t been on the hosting schedule yet. #lindychat -3:04 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly I’ll start. I’m Rebecca Brightly from Seattle, your #lindychat host yet again. #lindychat -3:03 PM Apr 4th, 2012

RebeccaBrightly Hey #lindychat people! We’ll get started with the Q’s in just a second. Please feel free to introduce yourself, e.g. name and location. -3:01 PM Apr 4th, 2012